This summer I attended my first ever bator event. It was originally supposed to be the 2026 Master Bator Convention (MBC), but the formal event had to be cancelled. Thirty or so of us decided to go anyway and had an informal Midwest bator meetup weekend instead. While we planned a number of small events,…

Welcome to my blog, BatorBrained! I’m here to write more about what being a bator means to me, my experiences with the bate brotherhood, and the role of pleasure in what it means to live a good life. I believe in what adrienne maree brown calls “pleasure activism”, a way of reclaiming pleasure as integral…